It’s true. I think and act like a guy sometimes and it seems to throw alot of people off. I’m blunt, confident, and non-committal in many ways. I usually don’t take things personally; I don’t like to cuddle; I’m not very romantic and I’m sometimes insensitive. I guess it’s a bit unexpected coming from someone cute and cuddly looking like me. I offend people alot and you can read about that in my many past posts.
I’ve always been a tomboy and I grew up with three brothers so my social cues come from a dude-centric place. Growing up I always, always, always had more guy friends than girls. One of my two best friends in high school was a skater-dude named Brett. I liked hanging out with the boys because they are so much more chill about things. With girls, I always felt like there was always DRAMA because someone said this or someone did that or someone looked like they said this or did that. So damn annoying. Thankfully, I’m not in HS anymore nor surrounded by insecure HS girls.
But I do work with many women now and I know I have hurt their feelings in some way or another on several occasions because I am not responsive to their social cues. I rarely call people back, I may “disappear” for days, and I flake out on parties and social occasions. DUH. I’M BUSY! I’m just trying to keep up with the roller coaster existence of owning my own business.
When this sh%t happens to me, I really don’t care and I rarely take things personally but that too will bother my girl friends. And I respond very badly to “needy” friends. Those who call all the time and question where I was, what I was doing, who I was with. Geez. I’ll make all efforts avoid them because I need the space. And usually the more I pull away, the more they push. And it’s not that I don’t want to be their friend, it’s just that I don’t want to be that kind of friend. I already have that kind of friend; I’m happily married to him.
Hey, if you’re one of my girl friends reading this and thinking “what the ^*&^%! She’s talking about me!”, well I probably am. I apologize for hurting your feelings. I don’t want to hurt your feelings. Believe me I wouldnt be your friend if I didn’t like you and think you are absolutely rockin’. I don’t pretend to be someone’s friend either because I just don’t have the time nor effort to b.s.
Don’t take things so personally. Seriously. And honestly, it’s always about me–its not about you. I am selfish in that way. I will always do what’s best for me. And by-the-way, the more drama you are, the less likely I’ll want to be around you. So stop with the internal strife. It really is bugging me.
I read this and I absolutely loved it! I just want you to know that you aren’t the only female with the male-like brain! I’ve always felt more comfortable being one of the guys than I ever have being one of the girls. So often girls are just so catty! Like one of my best friends at work. She gets with this guy and he keeps saying he’ll leave the girl he is with and he always has an excuse. Needless to say she eventually wised up and left him but she couldn’t even warn the girl he is with that he’s a dog because she wouldn’t believe her. I hate that about the female gender. Instead of teaming up against a rotten guy we fight each other. Never made any sense at all to me.
In relationships, somehow I always get these guys who lack all the female qualities I lack and it drives me insane! I don’t want to spend every waking minute together! Anyway, I realize I’m starting to ramble and rant so on that note, kudos on the blog!